THE BLOG

(TMI TBH -Too Much Information Too Be Honest)

Welcome! Whether you’re taking your first steps toward sobriety, celebrating years of alcohol-free living, or simply seeking inspiration and support, you'll find genuine stories, practical advice, and compassionate support to help you on your journey.

Grief that Comes out Sideways grief Oct 23, 2024

My stepmom, Cheryl, died last week. We said our final goodbyes far in advance, about 18 months ago. I had the foresight to know it would be our last visit. I have been blessed with many known final visits with loved ones. This might sound morbid, but my mom always taught me how special it is to be w...

Continue Reading...
Bittersweet Symphony - On Leaving a Legacy alcoholfree grief sober coach sobriety Apr 16, 2024

I got happy and sad news at the same time yesterday. First, a phone call revealed that my friend, Tracy, who had been bravely battling cancer for 3+ years, had passed away. Then I received a text from a previous client, who just celebrated three years of being alcohol-free, I considered the three-ye...

Continue Reading...
From Temptation to Triumph: A Sober Perspective on Watching Others Indulge in Wine alcohol free drinks cravings friends friendship grief social stigma Feb 18, 2024

 

My husband and I went to City Winery for a 10,000 Maniacs show last night. After a comedy of errors in our dinner plans, we decided to eat at the venue. We did not want to be the first people at the show, so first, we enjoyed dinner in the adjoining restaurant. We got a cute little table right ne...

Continue Reading...
Coping with Grief Without Alcohol grief sober tools Dec 12, 2023

 

Something has been brewing inside me and it bubbled over this weekend. 

 

It started with listening to a song really loud in the car by myself. It struck a chord, almost literally.

I felt something in the music and started singing along. My singing took a turn and morphed into screaming which...

Continue Reading...
I Was Drunk When My Friend Died grief Sep 27, 2023

 

It's been 10 years since my friend Bulmaro Junior passed away. His death was one of three that escalated my already heavy drinking. He was my good friend, and he was also my drinking buddy. We loved drinking together. He lived across the street from me and we called ourselves "bac

...
Continue Reading...
The Thin Line Between Normal and Heavy Drinking alcohol anxiety depression grief health Jun 23, 2020

My friend, Becky died a year ago today from alcohol. 

It is so sad and it is not fair.

Becky and I were just casual friends, but we had a lot in common. 

We both come from the same small town in Wisconsin. 

We were both on the Poms squad in high school.

We married good, steady guys who loved us...

Continue Reading...
Silver Linings of Grief anxiety death grief Jun 04, 2020

At 44 years old, I might be at the halfway point of my life. 

My Grandma just passed away at 88 last week. 

No one is getting any younger.

My kids are teenagers and I am middle aged. 

I am not sure how this all happened so quickly. 

Just yesterday I was in high school, and somehow my first born...

Continue Reading...
Asking for Help, I am Racist anxiety blacklivesmatter equality grief May 31, 2020

Black Lives Matter. 

I want to openly admit how racist I am, and what I am doing about it.

This might surprise you to hear that I am racist, because I am, without a doubt, also anti-racism. 

I am a kind, accepting, open, loving white woman. 

I believe and vote for equal rights for ...

Continue Reading...

Transform Your Life:
A Guided eBook

Make lasting change with my first guided ebook. My prompts will help you dig deep and sustain change from the inside out.